Give and Take in Social Media

by Nicole Branigan on September 25, 2012 · 1 comment

Can you hear me now?

All give and no take makes Blackbird kind of a prick.

At the beginning of the summer I deleted my Facebook profile. I couldn’t do it anymore. The app requests, the braggarts, the complaining – it wasn’t fun and I was done. I was friends with over 400 people and I didn’t want to see about 75% of them on a daily basis. It all felt unnatural to me, and it still does. In the real world when you find out your high school classmate is pregnant you say “oh, that’s nice.” In the Facebook world you see 8 billion pictures chronicling their pregnancy and homebirth. Not. Normal.

I maintained my Blackbird Can Write Facebook fan page to stay connected and promote my book. I quickly realized that was a lot of giving, and not a lot of taking. Like any good relationship, your Facebook fan page relationship requires balance and mutual participation. Without a two-sided conversation, that all-important give and take, there is no relationship. There’s a lot of “HI. THIS IS WHAT I’M DOING!” In a beautiful, working world there is listening and talking, and the listening makes the talking better and makes you smarter.

I’ve reinlisted on Facebook, but in a scaled back way. I’ve kept my personal profile accessible only to those who I interact with on a daily basis. My Facebook fan page is available for everyone. Of course, you can still find me via Twitter where I pretend I’m smart and funny. You can also meet me for coffee or a non-pumpkin flavored beverage where we can talk, like, face-to-face and stuff. Let’s talk. I want to hear what you have to say.

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Jack September 26, 2012 at 1:01 am

But, what if I like pumpkin flavored beverages?… Also, the original function of computer based communication was the giving of user requests… Has this changed? We, as users are constantly giving to the computer. Give, give, give, how else could the internet have come into being without (Al Gore) & us giving our energies to it’s creation. Thus, it is our collective ‘wishing well’, if you will. What do we get back from this big wishing well?


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